When Colorado parents are involved in a difficult custody battle, the child or children a the center of the issue are often the ones who are harmed the most. No parent wants to place their child's emotional well-being at risk, but it is easy to get so wrapped up in a bitter child custody dispute that reason and objectivity fall by the wayside. Parents who are able to focus on the needs of their children are far better equipped to navigate custody issues successfully.
One technique that can make a big difference in one's parenting success is to adapt a proactive approach. This simply means identifying that the needs of a child are the most important factor in any decision-making scenario, and placing those needs at the forefront at all times. Proactive parents take the time to understand the consequences of each available option before making a decision. This allows them to make the best possible parenting choice, no matter the topic at hand.
Divorce can prompt reactive behavior. This is understandable, as the end of a marriage often makes spouses take a defensive stance. However, making child custody decisions from a defensive posture does not serve the best interests of one's children. Reactive parenting can also lead to problems with discipline, communication and other parent/child matters.
Colorado parents who are going through a divorce and child custody dispute should try to implement proactive parenting into their daily routine. By placing the needs of shared children above their own emotional reaction to divorce, both parents are better equipped to make decisions that will help their children adjust to their new reality. This can help support and strengthen the parent/child bond.
Source: Huffington Post, After Divorce: The Value of Proactive vs. Reactive Parenting, Rosalind Sedacca, Oct. 1, 2013