When considering child custody, the typical assumption is that mothers will be the primary caregivers when two parents cannot raise the children together. However, just because this may be the norm does not mean that there are not men who wish to be involved in child-rearing. Many Colorado fathers would welcome the opportunity to be the sole or primary provider for their children, but there are times when their wishes on child custody are overlooked. Recently, a father sued in his home state when his baby's mother placed their son for adoption without his consent.
The man in this case met his ex-girlfriend at their former place of employment. She became pregnant soon after they began dating. He got a temporary job out of state, but took measures to reassure her that he wanted to be a father to their child. When his job ended, their relationship did also. He claims she discouraged him from signing with the state's putative father registry, which is used by men who are not married to declare their intent to legally raise their children.
Without his permission or knowledge, he states that she placed their son up for adoption. He contested, but the boy was placed with a family. The man has now brought a lawsuit against his home state of Utah for the loss of his son. He hopes that no other fathers will have to endure this pain. The little boy recently turned three.
Though this particular case did not happen here in Colorado, it is certainly a possibility. Some parents might even take their child across state lines in an attempt to place them for adoption secretly. If a father finds himself in this situation, he may need assistance from a court that is experienced with matters of child custody. Though fathers might not be the traditional caregivers, that doesn't mean that they are incapable of loving their children just as much.
Source: witn.com, Dad Files $130M Lawsuit After Son In Utah Is Given Up For Adoption, No author, Jan. 1, 2014