Those who choose to serve our country through military service deserve society's appreciation. They put their lives on the line on a daily basis to protect the rest of the country. Many believe that the least that society can do in return is to help to preserve the service member's home life as much as possible. This is the struggle that one sailor finds himself in as his ex-wife is suing for custody of their daughter while he is serving overseas. Colorado families who are attempting to determine child custody may be able to learn from this man's story.
The sailor lives with his current wife and his daughter on the West Coast. Currently, he is in an undisclosed location in the Pacific aboard a submarine. He was originally awarded full custody of his daughter a few years ago when his ex-wife and her boyfriend at the time were facing charges of child abuse -- those charges were eventually reduced to assault. The ex-wife sued for custody of the little girl last year and it appeared that she might win her case because the sailor was going to be unable to appear in court.
A judge issued an order to delay the case for several more months, saying she initially was unaware that the man was deployed. Under the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act, the case can be suspended while he is away. Also under consideration is whether the man's ex-wife will be granted parenting time.
Members of the armed forces are far from the only people who have to contend with child custody, but this man's case can serve as a reminder of just how seriously the court system will consider issues like this. Here in Colorado, those who are working on a custody arrangement may benefit from fully understanding their rights under the law as they negotiate. Open communication can serve the purpose of ensuring everyone involved has their desires known and that the best resolution possible can be reached.
Source: freep.com, "Judge orders break in Adrian sailor's child custody case", , June 23, 2014