How should divorced parents coordinate schedules?

On Behalf of | Jun 26, 2020 | Child Custody

After divorce, it can be tough to coordinate custody schedules, as well as each family member’s activities. When you and your spouse were living under one roof, it may have made sense to keep all the information on one calendar and provide gentle reminders as you bumped into each other throughout the day. However, this plan won’t continue to work after divorce.

Since you are both adults, you may expect that each parent keeping their own schedule may be an easy replacement to your old methods. However, it can be easy to go from the nagging spouse to the nagging ex or the forgetful spouse to the forgetful ex.

If you worry about your or your co-parent’s organizational skills, it may be time to upgrade your paper calendar and low-tech planner. Fortunately, technology offers several free options that could help.

The right calendar

Sometimes, it is just about having the right calendar for your family’s needs, and Google Calendar may offer just the right amount of simple solutions for your situation. With Google Calendar, you and your co-parent can create one calendar that you can both access and modify.

It also allows you to schedule recurring events, which can help you both stay on track with whose weekend it is with the kids. You can even create additional calendars for an added layer of organization. This can allow you to keep track of your children’s activities and coordinate which parent will attend which events.

Color-coding can make it more user-friendly

Cozi takes the family calendar to the next level. It allows you and your co-parent to create a calendar that you can both access and color-code the events that pertain to each family member.

For example, your events may be indicated by a blue dot, while your co-parents events may be indicated by a red dot and your child’s events are indicated by a yellow dot. Events that include the entire family can also be shown with a different colored dot.

Cozi also allows you to create shared lists. While you and your co-parent may not be grocery shopping for each other anymore, this could come in handy when planning your child’s packing list for switch days.

Communicate with your co-parent and your kids in one place

If your kids are older, they may be making plenty of their own plans, and SquareHub may be a better solution. SquareHub is social network, similar to Facebook, but it is private, designed just for your family and safe for kids to use.

With SquareHub, you, your co-parent and your children can manage your schedules by creating events and setting to-do lists. You can send private messages and photos, and your kids can even “check in” with you and your co-parent when they are out with friends. This feature would allow them to share their location details within the protected network that you create for your family.

These are only three possible solutions out of the many options that technology offers. If you are concerned about how your family will coordinate schedules post-divorce, it may be helpful to explore these and other options to see if there is one out there to help make this change easier for your family.