Many divorcing couples do not realize that they have options for their divorce process. Most people simply expect that they will end up fighting about their issues in front of a judge, who will ultimately decide the divorce outcomes.
While litigation may be an appropriate, or even necessary, approach to some divorce situations, it may not be the best approach for all situations. In some situations, mediation may offer a less stressful and less costly approach to divorce.
What is divorce mediation?
Mediation is a type of alternative dispute resolution. This process would involve you and your spouse working with an impartial third party, called a mediator, to find mutually agreeable resolutions to divorce-related problems.
The mediator helps you and your spouse reach these resolutions by facilitating conversation and negotiations. The mediator would not make divorce decisions for you but would guide you and your spouse toward resolutions that would work for both of you.
The mediation sessions could involve both your and your spouse meeting with your mediator at the same time. However, if meeting together promotes conflict, your mediator could meet with you and your spouse separately, going back and forth until you and your spouse reach an agreement.
With the help of a mediator, it may be possible to reach resolutions faster than you might have through litigation, which can save you money. However, it can also allow for more creative solutions than a judge would decide, which can mean that you are able to achieve more of the divorce outcomes that matter to you.
However, mediation may not be the best choice in every situation. Every marriage is unique, so you and your spouse must decide what the best divorce process is for your personal situation.