Settling into life after divorce involves a plenty of changes all at once. This can be difficult for both children and parents.
Although you have the time to strategically create a parenting plan and divvy up assets in a fair manner, sometimes it can feel like the switch from marriage to co-parenting can be a lot to handle. Through moving, having your children adjust to new routines and becoming a single parent, you might crave an ounce of familiarity during all this newness. Which is why many families who go through a divorce benefit from implementing a nesting arrangement.
In a nesting arrangement, parents will live in two homes instead of children. You can do this by keeping the family home so the children can live there on a full-time basis. Parents will also continue to live in the family home when it’s their turn with the kids. And when it isn’t, parents live an off-site residence. As you consider the idea, it’s worth noting that you have several different options when choosing where to reside when you aren’t living at the family home. You could stay with family or friends, share an off-site residence with your ex or buy or rent a place of your own.
If you are hesitant about nesting, then you should keep in mind that this kind of arrangement can last as short or long you’d like. When you want to try it out but are unsure of how long it will last, you can try seeking out a low cost or short-term lease for your off-site dwelling. Then, if you decide sharing real estate or being in frequent with your ex hasn’t negatively impacted your emotional well-being and works for your kids, you can keep it up and seek a more permanent second home. If not, you can take steps to sell the family home.
Time to be strategic
You might choose to use a nesting arrangement until you and your ex reach certain goals. Maybe you didn’t feel like the housing market wasn’t going to allow you to sell your home for what you believe it’s worth prior to your settlement. Or perhaps you’re unsure of where you’d like to move next or simply love the family home you purchased together. Nesting gives you the opportunity to extend the home search period.
While nesting might not be what you’ve heard divorced family members or friends doing, that doesn’t mean it won’t be a good option for your family. If you are unsure about how nesting may fit into your post-divorce plans, a legal expert or mediator can help you out.